![]() When you play the blame game, you are likely going to develop insecurities. Even if there are issues in your relationship that you are responsible for, the only person to blame for cheating is the person who cheated. If you’re dealing with infidelity, it’s not your fault. To look forward, allow yourself to process the feelings of what happened in the past but focus on how you want to approach relationships, or your current relationship, from this point on. And if you’re going out on your own, you’ll have a hard time trusting other people. When you allow yourself to dwell on what happened, you can’t build trust with your partner. Try Not to Dwell on the PastĪs I said, it’s important not to ignore the issue but you also need to look forward to the future whether you are staying in the relationship or not. You can’t build trust if you are constantly checking your partner’s messages or tracking their whereabouts. In fact, it will likely destroy all trust in the end. It may be tempting but it will not help you overcome your trust issues. If you decide to stay with your partner, don’t make the mistake of watching your partner’s every move like a hawk. Knowing the underlying issue is the first step in deciding whether or not you want to stay with your partner and fight for your relationship. Plus, if you ignore what happened, you’ll never discover the underlying issues in your relationship. You can’t rebuild trust with this issue looming over your head. Ignoring the problem isn’t going to reduce your pain or protect your sense of trust. Infidelity is not an issue you can sweep under the rug in hopes that it will go away. You’re allowed to cry and show your grief.ĭoing so will not only help you process your emotions but may also help you and your partner overcome communication barriers in your relationship. However, it’s important to be honest about your emotions and let your partner know how you feel. Maybe you think you are “taking the high road” or perhaps you don’t want your partner to “win” by knowing how much it hurts. Be Honest About Your EmotionsĪfter your partner has cheated on you, you may feel compelled to hide how you feel. There are certain steps you can take to overcome the trust issues caused by infidelity. There’s no right or wrong answer when it comes to ending or continuing your relationship. Or, it may be an opportunity to strengthen your relationship if you decide to stay. If you decide to leave your partner, you may find yourself increasing your standards when it comes to dating. While dealing with infidelity can be damaging, it’s also an opportunity to experience growth and change. Once upon a time you felt safe and loved and suddenly you discover the possibility that neither may be true. The emotional effects of infidelity are long-lasting and can end up disrupting your view of reality. ![]() It can also lead to a sense of insecurity because most people at the raw end of infidelity blame themselves for their partner’s cheating.įinding out that your partner has cheated on you is a shock to the system. It’s no secret that infidelity, affairs, and cheating break down the foundation of a relationship and create trust issues.
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